Vandaag deel ik een paar Instagram posts van Dr. Nicole LePera, ook wel The Holistic Psychologist op Instagram. Ik volg naar hu enkele jaren en haar posts zijn zó duidelijk, goed verwoord en brengen altijd iets teweeg in mij.
Ik zou willen dat de hele wereld ze kon lezen om te realiseren dat er heling bestaat, dat hun disfunctionele gedrag uit iets van vroeger voortkomt en dat ze rust kunnen vinden in stilte – in plaats van ervan weg te rennen.
*Diepe zucht – ik zou gewoon willen dat iedereen het kon lezen! Ik deel vandaag een aantal mooie <3
Klik op de foto/screenshot om naar de bijbehorende post te gaan op haar Instagram account.
Oef, deze is GOED!! Lees het onderschrift hier:
Many things that are rewarded culturally are actually acts of self harm. We don’t always see them that way because they provide us with social status or approval from parents/friends.
From the time we are children, we are programmed with beliefs about ‘success.’ About what it is to be a good person. About what traits/emotions are ok to express + which ones should be completely denied or repressed.
It’s why I always struggled with the idea of ‘clinical depression’ or ‘clinical anxiety.’ These states are so common + we rarely ask why. We diagnose + treat without looking at the patterns + beliefs that have created a collective so depressed, so distracted, so frustrated, + so lost.
Self harm that is rewarded by society looks like:
1. Overworking/overachieving/constantly ‘going’: Having visions + ambitions is a gift where we get to challenge ourselves + create what we wish to see. Having an ambition you didn’t consciously choose, or using the avatar of a ‘workaholic’ is often a means of escape that leads to severe unhappiness.
2. Self sacrifice as love: we often reward or hold people as virtuous who ‘put everyone before themselves.’ This pattern leads to resentment + ultimately disconnection from the people we love because we betray ourselves in the process. We cannot truly give until we give to ourselves first.
3. Over-extending ourselves financially to ‘keep up’ with others: leads to cycles of chronic comparison + stress.
4. Being always available (on call): especially rewarded within family + work environments. Leads to lack of boundaries/resentment
5. Social media ‘outrage’: social media outrage occurs when we (without breaks) consume content that puts us on a cycle of emotional addiction. These platforms are designed to use our dopamine + cortisol hits to keep us using the product. They can lead us to feeling helpless + have a narrative of the world that doesn’t necessarily reflect reality.
6. Sticking with it (never quitting): it’s a beautiful thing to see something through. We have a false belief that quitting is somehow bad or makes us a failure. Quitting things that don’t align + trying new things is actually the path of happiness #selfhealers
Ik zou je echt willen adviseren haar te volgen als er iets van de bovenstaande posts je heeft geraakt – het zou zomaar je leven kunnen veranderen!
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Heel interessant, bedankt voor het delen Teni!